Comments on: Shame and Intimacy

By: Beth

Beth — Fri, 26 Oct 2012 21:25:25 +0000

I know that’s true, Robyn. My regrets aren’t so much about the sex as they are about not loving well or communicating well. I know, looking back, that there were all sorts of reasons why I wasn’t in the mood and if we had been in a better place … he would have understood that.

Thanks for your support and friendship!
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By: Beth

Beth — Fri, 26 Oct 2012 21:21:26 +0000

Thanks ShaRhonda! That is my heart’s desire … to honor God and support women. Thank you for being such a faithful friend!
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By: Beth

Beth — Fri, 26 Oct 2012 21:18:59 +0000

Starfish, huh? LOL! I think, honestly, we just allowed too much (or too little) to go on for too long. And then he was diagnosed with prostate cancer right after this which added more stress and complications. Trying to get better at the communication thing!
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By: Beth

Beth — Fri, 26 Oct 2012 21:16:21 +0000

Thank you, my dear friend! Your prayers are appreciated!
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By: Robyn Engel

Robyn Engel — Fri, 26 Oct 2012 19:51:41 +0000

Thanks for sharing your story, Beth. You ARE too hard on yourself. I think we can all relate to incidents like that. It’s sometimes a rare thing that both partners want sex at the same time. We have all sorts of reasons (real and/or excuses) for not wanting sex. I doubt there’s a couple in the world that has a perfect sex life, according to both parties.

xoRobyn
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By: ShaRhonda

ShaRhonda — Fri, 26 Oct 2012 18:05:56 +0000

Beth, You are truly a woman after God’s heart and a woman after helping those who are in similar situations. God is using you and healing you tremendously through this blog.
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By: Rorybore

Rorybore — Fri, 26 Oct 2012 13:10:33 +0000

When my DH and I had our busiest season of parenthood when baby #3 joined our family, it helped a lot when I just explained to him that it was not HIM I was saying “no” to. I literally was too exhausted and overwhelmed to always be interested in sex when he was (because let’s face it – even on death bed they would be interested.) I told him other ways of intimacy were also important to me: like just watching a movie snuggled on the couch, or sometimes reading beside each other bed and sharing the stories, or, hey – listen to me when I talk. LOL It helped a lot for him to know that it was really just a matter of the “head and and heart are completely willing, but the body just can’t catch up right now.”
Also, I said yes one night when I was just completely drained and depleted. He saw first hand that when I am ready, willing and able: it’s just so much better. I believe the term “starfish” was used! LOL
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By: May

May — Fri, 26 Oct 2012 05:07:26 +0000

The book sounds powerful. And all the best in the rebuilding. It is hard work, but well worth the effort.
Can’t believe all you guys have been going through. I am including you in my prayers tonight.
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By: Beth

Beth — Thu, 25 Oct 2012 20:08:17 +0000

Thanks Chrissy! =) Praying that things are looking better in your family too!
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By: Christina Berry

Christina Berry — Thu, 25 Oct 2012 15:06:21 +0000

I admire you for sharing this story. Thank you!
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